Over the last few weeks people have started to feel that the ‘dust has settled’ enough to start asking questions about my changed relationship status. I try to limit my response to , “Eh, it just didn’t work.” I don’t want to be one of those people that just trash talks the other person when it’s over. I’m not surprised by people asking, but what surprises me is the response. The general consensus has been “It’s about damn time you realized you could do better.”
….what?
He also told me that someone he works with actually told him he was never going to do any better and should at least try to get me back. While that’s flattering, it’s also really mean.
So this has led to some interesting conversations including at least four different people telling me they were completely shocked when they met him. I’ve been told repeatedly that the first thing people thought when they met him was , “What is she doing with him?” This surprised the hell out of me and led me to further questions. Apparantly other peoples boyfriends actually tell them they’re pretty on a regular basis? I requested to be told this once and was told it would just “boost my ego”. I agreed with this statement and never asked again.
I’m just so perplexed by the responses. There’s a part of me that feels a little…vindicated (?) but even more so I don’t believe the responses. I feel like they’re just unnecessary attempts at comforting me , even though I have no need for comfort. Is my self esteem that low that I not only don’t believe I deserve better, but also don’t believe the people that blatantly tell me so? How did that happen?
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